Wow, has it really been nearly six months since I last posted to this weblog? Apparently. In all honesty, this was never meant to happen.
Instead, life threw me not one, not two, but three knuckle-balls that really made me step back and look at things a little differently.
My family has had this misfortune this year of dealing with three deaths, one of which was completely unexpected. In April, an uncle of mine (on my mother's side) passed away unexpectedly of heart failure. He was only 53. This occurred shortly after I went incommunicado on this weblog. In May, my grandfather (on my father's side) passed away after a thankfully brief battle with pancreatic cancer. Then, in August, my other grandfather (on my mother's size) passed away.
I was pretty close with both my grandfathers (but, of course, as is often the case, not as close as I wanted to be). So, even though we pretty much knew that the deaths were coming, they still hit me pretty hard.
To add to the fire, I was thrown into some really unexpected situations with my job that were very, very stressful. Because of some of these changes, I ended up working 50-60 hour weeks for several months in a row. Although the paychecks were very nice (I'm not salaried), the continuous long hours were something that I ended up wishing I didn't have to deal with.
As all this has happened, it has really caused me to re-examine priorities in my life. I tried to mentally step back from everything I was doing and figure out exactly what I should be doing with my time.
Family is very important in my life. I realized that I hadn't spent enough time with either of my grandfathers despite the fact that it would not have been all that hard for me to do so. Yes, I realize that this is a common regret that people feel when a loved-one passes away. But, for example, despite the fact that one of my grandfathers lived maybe five minutes away during his last year of life, I saw him maybe 10 times during that period. Something else always came up. I was working late, was exhausted after work, needed to work on my software, etc.
Family was not prioritized where it really should have been. Even spending time with my wife was something that was getting pushed down the list at times.
So, I've decided to make some adjustments. Family, of course, is prioritized much higher now. This doesn't mean that I'm always going to drop everything for family all the time. But, my intent is to remember that family should remain much higher that it was.
I've also decided that I'm spending way to much time at one of my various computers. Working on my software, reading my e-mail, browsing the web, etc. was tying up way to much of my time. I sacrificed much time that I could have spent outdoors working on my lawn (something I love to do), riding my bike, taking walks with my wife, etc.
I've realized that the computer isn't all that I'm about. I have other interests as well that I need to spend time on. But, I will also admit that I over-compensated during these last several months and worked to spend as little time at the computers as possible. Because of this, new versions of iHam on iRye and Print Window are long overdue.
So, although I won't be spending the huge amount of my free-time working at my computers as I was, in favor of other priorities, I will be setting aside a good amount of time every week to work on my software and other SearchWare Solutions-related items. You should be seeing new versions of iHam on iRye and Print Window soon.
Really, I'm trying to re-budget my time in a way that will allow me to focus on each of my interests and loves, but giving none of them short-shrift. Hopefully, I'll be successful at this. I've ignored to much and too many people for too long. By doing this, I hope to be able to greatly reduce the stress in my life. It should be interesting to see what comes out of this.